In Jesus’ Sermon on the Mount, he offers this analogy on sacredness,
“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.”
Don’t give things to people who dont appreciate them. who don’t understand the value of your gift…because they may throw it away and you will be hurt in the process.
It is an encouragement to surrender others to their path. Let go of the desire to mold and influence them on their journey. Stop giving directions to folks who aren’t asking. Some people need to wander alone in the desert for 40 years.
Understanding that no one belongs to you opens the door to an immeasurable freedom.
It frees you and it frees them.
People are free to choose their own path, as destructive and painful as it may be. One of the greatest lessons I have had to constantly re-learn in life is the Buddhist tenant of nonattachment. Buddhists say the root of suffering is attachment. Attachment to ideas, to people, to outcomes, to the way things unfold.
We learn to let go of people we love, people we like, and those we don’t particularly care for. We separate ourselves, and our process, from others and their process.
We relinquish our tight hold and our need to control in our relationships. We take responsibility for ourselves; we allow others to do the same. We detach with the understanding that life is unfolding exactly as it needs to, for others and ourselves. The way life unfolds is good, even when it hurts.
I do not know what the future holds, but I know who holds it. Scriptures says God holds my life in the palm of his hands. He has made me, He will carry me, He will sustain me and rescue me. I stand firm in these truths. Disappointments are just a way of the Universe saying, I have something better for you. Here’s to trusting in that promise.