unconditional love: affection without limitations. no bounds. no conditions. no circumstances.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this term. unconditional love. I’ve loved a lot of people in my life, not in the high school boyfriend sense of the term, but I mean really genuinely cared for another human being because of who they were, not what they did for me. I think that’s why I’ve always had a hard time letting go of people and relationships, because I’m not done loving them. Even when wronged and hurt, I still pray for reconciliation, because that’s what I’ve been shown.
When I think of unconditional love I think of forgiveness. I think of what Micah says about Christ having compassion on us time after time. How he will trample our inequities under his foot and throw them to the depths of the ocean. It’s almost as though every wrong we’ve done, every offensive word, every bad intention and harmful thought, is this barrier in front of us, blocking who we really are. And God takes all that shit and and buries it. The depths of the sea. I don’t know how deep that is but I imagine it is a place where nothing will ever be found or rediscovered. And I think that’s a beautiful thing. Because God doesn’t care about all the dumb shit we do, he cares about our hearts.
So God removes our inequities and throws them to the sea. And we, as humans, surely build them up again. We lie again, we think negative thoughts about people, we act selfishly, there is no escape from doing dumb shit. But God doesn’t care. And if God is love, then love doesn’t care. Love continuously forgives and pursues. How many people in your life can you say do that for you?
For me, it’s not that many. I’ve realized that for most people, in most relationships, love is a good that is given and withheld under certain conditions. And when those conditions are not met, love is not shown. I’m comforted by Paul’s words in Romans, he says he is convinced that nothing can separate us from the love of God. Not death or life, angels or demons, not the present or the future, no powers no height in the heavens or depth in the sea. He says, nothing, nothing in all of creation can alter unconditional love.
I think some of the purest examples of this love is with our families. The kind of love that you can’t wash away with time. All the fuck ups and arguments in the world can’t come between my brothers, my parents and I. There is nothing I can do that will stop them from loving me. Sometimes that’s all I need to get me through the day.
but dont take it from me, Paul or Micah, Tupac really knows whats up